And, much like this essay, it’s sure as shit ain’t linear. So, it was more important to work on overcoming those distortions.īut the thing about going from body dysmorphia to body positivity is that it’s a journey, not a destination. Even though working out did help, I couldn’t change my pigeon chest without some seriously invasive reconstructive surgery. I don’t want to spoil it for potential book readers (cuz they are really good stories).įor me, finding body positivity was about finding the balance between the things I could change and the things I couldn’t. I wrote about both of these experiences in Breaking Glass Balloons, so I won’t go into much detail here. The second was a traumatic experience that forced me to deal with self-acceptance. The first was getting spontaneously pressured into my first nudist event that forced me to get comfortable in my own skin. It wasn’t until two major life events happened that I got on the real path to body positivity. Enough would have never been enough to feel good enough. I would have always kept overanalyzing my body. I would always find someone who looks “better” than me. If I had continued to approach it this way, I would never have been happy, much less the king of any jungle. I could finally be the king of my jungle. If only I could get these, then I would be a happy person.
I wanted a massive chest, girthy 17” man-arms, and a six-pack so hard, you could break a tooth on it. Ergo, working on your physical appearance alone does not solve body dysmorphia.Įxcept, I had grown into an adult gay man. It’s a distortion in the way we see ourselves. Mayo is trying to say is that I fucked it up. But you may feel so embarrassed, ashamed and anxious that you may avoid many social situations.” “Body dysmorphic disorder is a mental health disorder in which you can’t stop thinking about one or more perceived defects or flaws in your appearance - a flaw that appears minor or can’t be seen by others. Although I didn’t like Webster’s version, so I am giving you the Mayo Clinic’s instead:
I’m gonna pull a “Webster’s Dictionary moment” here and give you a definition. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was well within the grips of body dysmorphia. I remember that not every post is going to be a home run and that’s okay.Then I’d catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and start tearing myself apart again. Most of the time I just write freely and whatever comes out comes out. Sometimes I think “If I write one more blog post I’m gonna vomit on my keyboard.” But my nitch is “life uncensored” and life keeps fascinating the fuck out of me. We feature each other’s work and promote each other and collaborate.Īs for how I stay inspired to write… this does get tough. One of my most favorite things about blogging is that our fellow bloggers aren’t competition, they are our co-workers. Use social media and collaborate with other bloggers. So give people an incentive to subscribe (i.e. Subscribing means people are giving you their information so they rarely do it, even if they love your work. You can tell that mailchimp does not give me a kickback to recommend them because I’ll say right up front that, once you get a large audience, it is stupidly expensive and they enrage me for it.ĥ.
#BARE INKSLINGER UNCENSORED NUDE FREE#
It’s free up to 2,000 subscribers and then the price sky rockets from there. Start an email list so your readers can subscribe. I probably push my limit with 1,500 – 2,000 words.Ĥ. I also don’t recommend making posts too lengthy. Keep your posts to a consistent length so readers know what to expect. Having a regular posting schedule can keep you dedicated and your audience engaged.Ĥ. Don’t just post whenever you feel like it or happen to have an essay done. Then build your page to fit your theme.ģ.
If you want google search to generate you in their results, do NOT use free webhosts like tumblr or blogspot. Decide on a theme or nitch for the blog and brand it around that theme.Ģ. Here’s the best rundown I can give to starting and growing a blog.ġ. Oh, jeepers that’s another question I could write a whole book on.
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